A most simple question.

Back in early 2016 when my daughter asked me on that ugly, grey day, “Mom, are you afraid of him?” I paused at her sincerity. I even questioned the pause hanging in the heavy air hoping, waiting for someone else to answer for me. To admit it, would bring shame. Honesty. Fear. It was the one question that began to change my life. Solemnly the words we both didn’t want to hear released themselves into the pause, “Yes. I believe I am.”

May 21, 2018, I created a nonprofit organization called VictoryLife House for survivors of Domestic Violence. We were in partnership with a local church when Covid hit in 2020, and the building we were going to be able to use became unavailable. January 2022, I sadly decided to end the nonprofit designation and turn VLH instead into my own personal volunteer effort to remain as a creative tool for those who are seeking help for their “now what?” questions after leaving their trauma. Here is a link to the farewell letter of my nonprofit I wrote to our supporters – and yet…it’s not really goodbye 🙂

I pray my posts inform you, move you to action either for yourself or others, and that they are a blessing in your life. Peace. Always. MJ

• To abuse or to be abused – there are other options.March 20, 2022
  Crave the change!
• Farewell does not always mean Goodbye 🙂January 27, 2022
• Bike helmets – I didn’t need one as a kid…why should I get one now as an adult?October 23, 2021
  Perhaps I am being overly dramatic, but I believe the helmet saved my life.
• Brainwashed? Me? No way! I’m smarter than to let something like that happen! hahahahahahaha.October 4, 2021
  I left. It took me getting physically broken before I did though, and you don’t have to wait that long.
• Amazingly enough, we have the power to say, “I’m done. I quit. I don’t want to do THIS anymore.”August 18, 2021
  I believe it comes down to education, perspective and the why we do the things we do….and…quite frankly…caring.

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Hi! I’m MJ! And I’m a survivor of Domestic Violence. This blog, yes, is for other survivors of Domestic Abuse. However, sometimes I like to write about other learning curve events or thoughts in my life.

Through VictoryLife House, survivors can find information to help them through the trauma they’ve experienced. Through this blog, I hope you also enjoy other random types of musings.

Life without abuse IS an option. Choose life!