A most simple question.

Back in early 2016 when my daughter asked me on that ugly, grey day, “Mom, are you afraid of him?” I paused at her sincerity. I even questioned the pause hanging in the heavy air hoping, waiting for someone else to answer for me. To admit it, would bring shame. Honesty. Fear. It was the one question that began to change my life. Solemnly the words we both didn’t want to hear released themselves into the pause, “Yes. I believe I am.”

May 21, 2018, I created a nonprofit organization called VictoryLife House for survivors of Domestic Violence. We were in partnership with a local church when Covid hit in 2020, and the building we were going to be able to use became unavailable. January 2022, I sadly decided to end the nonprofit designation and turn VLH instead into my own personal volunteer effort to remain as a creative tool for those who are seeking help for their “now what?” questions after leaving their trauma. Here is a link to the farewell letter of my nonprofit I wrote to our supporters – and yet…it’s not really goodbye 🙂

I pray my posts inform you, move you to action either for yourself or others, and that they are a blessing in your life. Peace. Always. MJ

• What in the world are you looking for?August 28, 2022
  As you get more comfortable in your own skin, these positive traits will become your mantra, and you will know if these needs are being met by your date. If they aren’t, it’s your choice to now make an informed decision. What are your options?
• S P E A K: Will the real compassionate you please step forward.August 21, 2022
  It’s good to know the why of the pain. It’s a whole other thing to acknowledge it and know the how to let it go and heal the wounds.
• One Person Religious Cults: Are you their fuel?July 23, 2022
  But them leaving had nothing to do with me and everything to do with them.
• Forever ComfortableJuly 6, 2022
  I didn’t and don’t want to become overly anxious that it’s not 100% (what is?), but I know I can do better than 85%.
• Trust & Safety – Taking care at a deeper level.June 26, 2022
  Those people who we put our safety in and our trust in, they don’t ever get hurt. We get hurt. I got hurt.

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Hi! I’m MJ! And I’m a survivor of Domestic Violence. This blog, yes, is for other survivors of Domestic Abuse. However, sometimes I like to write about other learning curve events or thoughts in my life.

Through VictoryLife House, survivors can find information to help them through the trauma they’ve experienced. Through this blog, I hope you also enjoy other random types of musings.

Life without abuse IS an option. Choose life!